Self-Control or the Quiet/Solemn Self
Self-Control is the fourth of the five “Principles of a Black Belt”.
Well first of all what comes to mind is that Self Control is pretty much on the opposite end of the spectrum from Drama. Drama creates strife, ill will, ugly behaviors, loud and vulgar interactions, anxiety, disrespect, acting out, and turmoil. Self-control generates none of these.
Self-control responds to disappointments, frustration, anger, attacks, bullying, and other provocations with calm, clear thinking, and appropriate action. The appropriate action may sometimes be no action at all.
Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake. Napoleon Bonaparte
Simple Definition of self–control
: control over your feelings or actionsSource: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary
You do not have to respond or react on automatic; anger for anger, disrespect with disrespect, turmoil with unhelpful words and actions. Exhibiting Self-Control does often require a lot of effort. It is so much easier to give in and become part of the problem rather than part of the solution.
Self-Control is the choice of leaders, warriors, and effective people.
To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him. Buddha
In the Martial Arts, the principle of Self-Control is straightforward. Accept responsibility for one’s actions, always strive to create a better self from the materials that life gives; experiences, training, teachers, partners, friends, and acquaintances.
In practice this might include not blaming someone else for your own poor technique, not having a “hissy fit” about receiving correction from a sensei, not taking your own frustrations out on others, being careful to not injure training partners, leading by example with proper respect to Dojo and Instructors…
To you young people reading this, you may have noticed that not all adults in your life have achieved a measurable degree of Self-Control. Well, it is an ongoing personal project that isn’t often high on many people’s’ “To Do List”. But that matters not. It is YOU who is responsible for you. It is your choice to take this on and be less influenced by external and internal forces.
I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times. Bruce Lee
Fortunately, Martial Arts training offers an environment in which it is acceptable and encouraged to work on becoming a better person.
Brian Dillon What do You think? Let us know!